You are loved. You are good enough. No matter how it seems, no matter how bad it gets. somebody out there loves you. You are special, even if you can’t see it, i promise you that there is someone who does. Even if the darkest of times, there is a way out of that darkness. People out there are willing to help you, even people who don’t know you, just because you don’t know them does not mean that they don’t want to help you. You are beautiful. You are good enough. Even if it doesn’t feel like it, I promise you that you are. Please don’t ever think that there is no way out. There is a way through it and there are people that will help you along the way. However bad it gets, you are not alone. You are never alone. There are people with you in that dark place who want to help you find the light. Please talk to someone, even if it’s just an anonymous message on tumblr. Please don’t think there is no way out; there is a huge world out there, billions and billions of people, nobody is perfect, nobody has the perfect life, everybody has problems but out in that big wide world there are people who’s lives you can change, people who can help shape your life and share so many things with. There is a world out there waiting for you. Please, just hold on and live. You are never alone.
I wrote that over a year ago on my Tumblr page and had quite a few messages after posting it thanking me for writing it. So, I thought that this week being "Suicide Prevention Week" and today being "Suicide Prevention Day" would be a good time to put it back out for people to see, alongside something else I posted which is incredibly relevant today;
Somebody I love very much has been bullied and driven to suicide. The reason? She's being herself.
In a world where little girls are being shot for speaking up for women's rights and education rights for girls, why on earth do people still find it acceptable to call people names, belittle them, completely shred their self esteem and drive them to take their own lives?
I am far from an optimist and nobody could ever accuse me of having any sense of naivety, but love and acceptance should be something that is universally accepted and not questioned.
We see people scorned and bullied for their beliefs, their social status, their sexuality, their race, their looks... It seems that people seek out anything that they can to make somebody feel inferior, when we should be encouraging people to embrace who they are and celebrate themselves.
We waste so much time trying to modify ourselves into an ideal -a person that isn't real, somebody that over time, the world decided was an 'ideal' human being - that we lose all sense of who we are.
People are fascinating. People are weird. People are kind. People are awful. But what we all have in common is that we are individuals. Find who you are, do what you love and if people don't like or accept that then they aren't the right people for you.
No matter how bleak or horrible or terrifying or lonely it gets, there is always somebody out there who is as terrified and lonely and looking for somebody just like you to come into their lives and make them feel a little less terrified and a little less lonely.
Words hurt. Words destroy. There is no armour that protects you from what people say and how they can make you feel like you aren't worthy or that you don't deserve to be here.
But you do. You deserve the world. All of you. Each and every one of you.
Flaws are human. Perfect people with perfect lives don't exist, and if they do then they haven't lived. Life hurts at times and life can be overwhelming and awful but it can also be wonderful and beautiful and it goes by far too quickly.
I can assure you that there are many, many people in the world who want to listen and want to help and want to help you find yourself, amongst the hurt and pain and bullying, there is a person in there who doesn't deserve any of it and who can be listened to, and loved, and accepted.
Over the years, I have experienced suicide first hand on more than one occasion. I have lost friends who couldn't deal with pain and the hurt and the words any longer.
No matter how insignificant you feel, I promise you, there is at least one person who wouldn't be altered by you being gone. People you haven't even met, people you don't think notice you, we all leave a mark. In years to come you may not remember their faces or names, you may not even remember their words. If you have to make somebody else feel bad to make yourself feel good then you really need to look at yourself. There isn't an excuse for it ever.
There is always someone who wants to help you, and to listen and to help you.
Please, just hold on. I am begging you.
Here are some useful numbers and links:
(US) National Suicide Prevention Lifeline - 1–800–273-TALK (8255)
- (UK) Samaritans - 08457 90 90 90
- (ROI) Samaritans - 1850 60 90 90
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